Daddy, Let’s Sit On The Bench
As part of our morning routine my son and I have begun stopping by the wharf before I drop him off at daycare. We only stay a few minutes, but they are precious minutes to both of us. I always try to keep the pace quick so that I am not late for work. But today something different happened.
Today my son asked if we could stop and sit on the bench.
This surprised me because I didn’t think that three-year old boys ever stopped moving.
But we did. Just for a moment. There was no one there to take our picture, and I was not about to take a “selfie”, so I took a step back and snapped one.
Once I saw the photo I knew that, besides being adorable, it had something to teach me. I wasn’t quite sure what it was, but I knew it would come. I kept searching for a deep meaning and could come up with none. Then it hit me!
My son just wanted to sit for a moment and take in the view. And that was fine with me. It didn’t last long. Maybe only about thirty seconds. But that was enough for him. At least on this day.
As I studied the picture above I wondered how often we allow our students, our staff, ourselves to simply stop and take in the view. In our world of timed tests, frequent deadlines and next steps, stopping for just a moment is something that rarely takes place.
For some reason we feel obligated to fill ever single moment with something “meaningful”, as if a moments can’t be meaningful by themselves. I don’t pretend to speak for Time, but I think that moments have a way finding meaning for themselves if we just let them unfold. They do not need our help. In fact, they probably wish we would just get out of their way.
I have a calendar on my phone, my Ipad, my desktop and on the wall at home. I make to-do lists so that I can get as much accomplished as possible. And they work okay. But I think that too often I am missing out on moments because I am to busy scheduling or thinking about time.
The same holds true for our children.
We need to allow moments to happen and not always feel as if we have to plan them. They have a way of simply unfolding if we just let them.
I am grateful that yesterday my son asked to stop and sit on the bench. I had many other scheduled events that took place that day,
One stood out.
Today I will hope for more, I just won’t plan them.